The difference in being in love and wanting to be in love...

Was chatting wid one of my close and dear friends yest.. Known her since like 3 yrs.. She's simple, sweet n quite innocent.. N thought that she was in love though she was not and was just wishing she was in love.. there's a vast difference between the two.. Movies affect our sense of daily life to such an extent and to add salt to our injuries we hav d terrible peer pressure asking us to fall in love as soon as possible if we wish to see a rosy world.. Well its so not true.. u can very well see a rosy world even when u r single.. If u love urself truly n luv every aspect of ur life, u will b living in a dream world n dats d rosy world everyone wants to believe that it brings happiness..whereas the case is just ulta..happiness brings in d rosiness ;)
Back to my friend.. Well she was involved wid dis guy..i frankly hated d fellow for lotsa a reasons n i bet he was a coward n useless fellow..just going around d world for tp wid no depth whtsoever.. n they broke off recently..n she dearly wanted him back..
here it goes...
frnd: are pata nahi....
ab usse lagta hai ki humara koi futur
nahi hai
11:10 PM age jaakar hume problem hogi...mai us k ghar main adjust nahi kar paungi...
us ki mummy nahi manenge
to bol raha tha hume abhi hi alag ho jana chahiye
11:11 PM nahi to baad main alag hone main bhot problem hogi
me: aur tujhe kya lagta h?
frnd: mujhe to lagta tha hum mana lenge...jab itna kuch kiya hai...to ghar walo ko bhi mana hi lenge
par kab wo mere sath rahna hi nahi chahta
to mai kyo use force karu ki mere sath rahe
11:13 PM me: hmm
u still love him?
frnd: hmm
bhot problem ho rahi hai
11:14 PM par try kar rahi hu thik rahu
me: hmm
scene h yaar
agar wo support nahi kar raha then to
theres no point
frnd: hmm..wahi...maine bhot din tak wait kiya ki shayd wo mind chang kar le
11:16 PM par wo humesha bolta rahta hai ki hum dost ban k hi rahte hai
me: to ab tak bina soche samjhe pyar aa raha tha?
kya mahaan h
wat do u really want? dil se?
frnd: mujhe us k sath rahna hai
mai nahi bhul sakti
11:19 PM me: n wat do u want practically from life?
11:20 PM frnd: padhna hai...meri family k liye kuch karna hai
me: tujhe sabse jyada khushi kab hoti h?
uske sath ya family k sath?
11:21 PM tu apne baare me kabhi sochti h ya bas baki sabke baare me hi abhi bhi??
11:22 PM frnd: khud k bare mai itna nahi sochti
sochna chahiye
me: acha tu ye bata
11:28 PM will u b able to completely change ur way of living just for being with him?
bahut vast diff aaega
life badal jaegi
u may not even b able to support ur own family maybe
11:29 PM frnd: puri tarike se to khud ko chang nahi kar sakti
11:30 PM me: do u want to go to a house where u r not accepted as u r?
frnd: nahi
me:  think for urself
tu thoda bhi change karegi khud ko aur tera bf hi tujhe support nahi karna chahta h to?
11:31 PM frnd: hmm
me: do u really luv him dat much?
n does he luv u back as much?
11:32 PM frnd: dekh maine yahan aakar khud ko bhot chang kiya...
or us k liye maine ladai bhi ki
11:33 PM shayad nahi
mai bas sab kuch sahi rahe us k liye us ki baat manti chali gai....n khud ko bhul gsi
wo to kabhi chang nahi hua
 
me: y did u luv him at first?
11:35 PM frnd: meri care karta hai
care to karta hai..
11:36 PM par mai shayad us se bhot expect karti hu
me: pagal h kya?
tu agar apne bf se kch expect nahi karegi to kis se karegi?
11:37 PM its normal to expect things from sum1 who luvs u coz if they do they will do everything to meet ur expectations
frnd: hmmm
mai or nahi roungi
:)
me: main sach bol rahi hu
tu practically soch
maan le apne ghar se jhagad k shadi bhi kar li
11:44 PM uski mom ko ye convince kar k ki tu jitna ho sakta h adjust kar legi
aur phr sath rehte rehte wo tujhme faults hi dhoondhti rahi to
aur frankly i dont think at those times dis guy will support u
somehow mujhe lagta h wo apni mom ka hi side lega
11:45 PM frnd: hmm..
me: he does not hav d courage to face d future
how can u still love him?
see anyone can care for u
ANYONE
11:46 PM dat does not mean they love u
n dear no one will love u if u dont luv urself
frnd: hmmm
11:47 PM wo pata hai.... break up hone k baad... 1 ladki k liye try bhi kiya...
flirt karta tha un k sath...
wo di ko samajh a gaya
me: i mean y d heck do u think of him?
he's such a loser
frnd: n wo us se baat karna band kar di
11:49 PM me: tu mere aas paas hoti na to zor ka thappad khati
he's moved on
dont u realise?
frnd: pata hai mujhe
1:50 PM me: n u r thinking of sacrificing ur family's happiness n ur own lifestyle for him?
y?
u cant b so madly in luv wid him.
frnd: or ab mai bhi try kar rahi hu....par bhot mushkil ho rahi hai
11:51 PM me: u need not flirt around or try for any guy ok..
frnd: hmmm
me: first get urself more confident
more happy
frankly agar koi ladka hota jo sach me tujhe utna pyar karta h jitna tu use karti h
wo aise behave karta
wo tujhe apni mom se introduce karwata
bolta ki tujhe pyar karta h but aage ki tabhi sochega agar uski mom haan karegi
12:29 AM aur phr mom ko aur tujhe aapas me comfortable karne ki koshish karta
thoda tujhe adjust karna hota thoda uski mom ko
but wo dono ko agar pyar karta to dono ko support karta
12:30 AM tujhe aise chod k itna aaram se he wudnt hav moved on if he really loved u
12:31 AM frnd: hmm
me: aisa to nahi h ki tu uski mom ko ghar se nikal dene wali thi
12:32 AM ya phr tu adjust karne se completely refuse kar rahi h
na hi usne apni mom se direct baat kar k frankly apni taraf se kch bhi mehnat ki h kch bhi try kiya h
it was not a hopeless situation but he is acting hopelessly
12:33 AM dat shows that he doesnt really want u
doesnt need
u
frnd: hmm...
me: if he can live without u i dont think he loves u
n to top it he flirts wid sum1 else
wow!
brilliant
12:34 AM it shows he doesnt even care to be with u
frnd: breakup hone k baad wo us k frinds k sath fest chala gaya....wahan bhot masti ki n mujhe aakar bola ki aisi masti usne...12th k baad ki hai
itna gussa aya tha mujhe
mai yahan pareshan hu itni n wo aise masti kar raha hai
12:36 AM break up k liye usne mujhe itna ghatiya reason diya tha ki us ki mummy ki collegue ne hum dono ko sath mai dekha tha bazar mai...
n ab us ki mummy pareshan ho rahi hai...
12:37 AM mujhe yaha reason zara bhi convincing nahi laga
 
me: hmm..
12:52 AM u kno one thing dear
12:54 AM u urslef hav known dat this relationship is not good for u
isnt it?
frnd: hmm
me: but u still dint want to beleive it..
rite?
frnd: hmm
12:55 AM me: i'll tell u a fact
u dont love him
u dont love him at all
its just that u love being in a relationship
that is having a guy who u think cares for u
u want someone to actually love u
12:56 AM we all do
every girl wants a gr8 husband yaar
dats obv
we all want a luv marriage
coz we believe we hav chosen d person who loves us
we love anyone we think who loves us
main ek baat 101% surely keh sakti hu ki wo tujhe pyar nahi karta
1:03 AM nor do u love him
u want to love him
n u want to beleive he loves u
 
to b contd...

the only reason i'm taking efforts to put this up is to tell u d diff between being in luv n wanting to b in luv...dont maistake one for d other coz it'll really harm u..pls..